10 Ways In Which A Caregiver Can Better Achieve Their Goals

Caring for others is both rewarding and difficult.  Remember, to properly care for others, you have to care for yourself first.

1.  Learn to take 1 hour a day for yourself, do something that is just for you.  Call a friend, read a book, luxuriate in a bath, take a walk, give your mind a rest!

2.  Try not to get involved in petty disagreements.  If the person you are caring for insists you wore a blue sweater last week, but you know that wasn't so, don't argue the point. (However, if these "mistakes" escalate, pay attention, this could mean other problems are brewing).

3.  Accept help from others.  If you always decline help, people will eventually stop offering.

4.  Make a list of things you could use help with.  Make sure your requests aren't overwhelming.  Maybe someone can pick up the milk or bread you're missing, the dry cleaning, a prescription or just come over for a short period of time so you can run out on an errand for yourself.

5.  If you are dealing with someone extremely forgetful, who constantly repeats themselves or asks the same questions over and over...take a deep breath and walk away for a few minutes.  Give yourself a break.

6.  Don't be too hard on yourself, if you lose patience, remember, you're only human. Apologise and move on.  Remember to forgive yourself as well!

7.  Attending a support group can be of great benefit.  If you're not sure where to go, try contacting the hospital in your area, social worker (if one is involved in your case) or go on line to see what's available in your community.

8.  Enjoy the small things.  If the person you're caring for is up for it, try baking some cookies, watch a favorite movie, look at picture albums, sit on the patio or just reminisce about happy times!

9.  Try to find things that will occupy you both.  Short outings, such as going for a drive, attending a class or discussion at a community center are a great change of pace and scenery.

10.  Last but not least, just try to take each day as it comes.  Don't overwhelm yourself by planning too much.  Remember to be kind, not only to the person you're caring for, but to yourself as well!